The Adult

The Adult represents the logical self who goes to work and manages tasks to completion.

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The Adult Ego State

Other Ego States

The Adult represents the logical self who goes to work and manages tasks to completion. This is the ego state in which reasonable boundaries and limits are set. This ego state has the potential power and poise to manage all of the ego states well as their administrator.  While living in this ego state a person feels strong, compassionate and capable of love. This portion of the self can help the Feeling Child get satisfaction in resolving issues with another based on logical decisions to deepen the relationship by using self-disclosure. Functioning as an Adult can free the Playful Child for full enjoyment and passion when the time and opportunity are appropriate. The Adult, along with the Nurturing Parent, can tame the Critical Parent into Discernment.  It can be a relief to the Critical Parent to discover the Playful and Feeling Child can be kept safe from distressing behavior in the arms of the Nurturing Parent. The Critical Parent no longer will have to protect and carry the weight of potential humiliation. Ideally, the Nurturing Parent represents the needs of the child ego states to the Adult.  The Adult consults with Discernment for deadlines, social guidance and issues of conscience. The Adult then is responsible for the behavior that is chosen.

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