The Adult

The Adult represents the logical self who goes to work and manages tasks to completion.

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The Adult Ego State

Other Ego States

The Adult represents the logical self who goes to work and manages tasks to completion. This is the ego state in which reasonable boundaries and limits are set. This ego state has the potential power and poise to manage all of the ego states well as their administrator.  While living in this ego state a person feels strong, compassionate and capable of love. This portion of the self can help the Feeling Child get satisfaction in resolving issues with another based on logical decisions to deepen the relationship by using self-disclosure. Functioning as an Adult can free the Playful Child for full enjoyment and passion when the time and opportunity are appropriate. The Adult, along with the Nurturing Parent, can tame the Critical Parent into Discernment.  It can be a relief to the Critical Parent to discover the Playful and Feeling Child can be kept safe from distressing behavior in the arms of the Nurturing Parent. The Critical Parent no longer will have to protect and carry the weight of potential humiliation. Ideally, the Nurturing Parent represents the needs of the child ego states to the Adult.  The Adult consults with Discernment for deadlines, social guidance and issues of conscience. The Adult then is responsible for the behavior that is chosen.

Slide The Adult Ego State The Adult represents
the logical self who
goes to work and
manages tasks to
completion. This is
the ego state in which
reasonable boundaries
and limits are set.
Slide Nurturing
Parent
Ego State The Nurturing Parent has its
origins in every culture as
the Earth-Mother. This is the
part of us that can nurture,
encourage and guide with
wisdom, the part of us we
want to interject into our being
as our perfect mother...
Slide Critical
Parent
Ego State This ego state has been
clearly presented in Gestalt
and Transactional Analysis.
This persona seeks to
be powerful in an attempt
to keep the child
ego states in line.
Slide Playful
Child
Ego State The Playful Child is sponta-
neous and adventurous
taking risks and finding joy
in life. The Playful Child
smiles easily and has a
sense of personal power
and sensuality.
Slide Feeling
Child
Ego State The Feeling Child is the
"primitive self," fully
aware of emotions and
viewing life from a
child's perspective. This
part of the self is hyper-
sensitive to
others' behaviors.
Slide Rebellious
Child
Ego State The Rebellious Child is
without enough healthy
expressions of play. All
the power of the
Playful Child is channeled
into Rebellious, angry,
self-destructive behavior.

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